By, Kaitlyn Gellos
Before I jump into some ways to love our husbands, this needs to be prefaced by saying that we can only love best when we let Christ work through us. Humanly, we fail. Repeatedly. But God has an endless supply of love and grace that he wants to pour into us that we might give to others, including our husbands.
Here are some ways we can (through Christ) love our husbands....
1. Love him enough to obey him.
“Ephesians 5:22 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.”
Titus 2:5 “To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.”
This is not popular, but it is scriptural. God’s order of things includes us obeying our own husbands. Don’t let the world’s skewed and unbiblical view of this commandment influence how you feel about it. Some would have us believe that submission is the same thing as abuse. This is not true. Submission is a good thing, because it’s God’s plan.
2. Love him enough to make time for him.
There will always be a thousand other things to capture our time and attention. Housework, church work, kids, cooking, social media, shopping, time with girlfriends, laundry. Make sure you purposefully set aside time for him.
3. Love him enough to be intimate with him.
“1 Corinthians 7:3-4 Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband. The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power over his own body, but the wife.”
God placed within our husbands an incredibly strong desire for intimacy. He placed within us the desire for closeness, too. The bedroom is something sacred and beautiful, but lovemaking is also an art to be learned. Never stop learning! Strive to learn and know your husband. Love him well in the bedroom, and find out what pleases him best.
4. Love him enough to make his interests yours.
Are there hobbies, sports teams, activities you didn’t have any interest in until you met your husband? For me, it was the Florida State Seminoles. The colors “garnet and gold” meant nothing to me, I did not look at or care about college football scores, and I had never heard the name Bobby Bowden. But then I met Brent. FSU is “his team,” so it became my team as well. Go, Noles!
5. Love him enough to speak well of him.
“Proverbs 31:11-12 The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil. She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.”
It is a wise goal to speak good things about (and to) our husbands. There are a few reasons this would serve us well. First of all, God calls us to reverence our husbands (Ephesians 5:33). It is hard to be respectful when I am tearing him down. Another reason we want to speak well of him is for those watching. Our children, friends, and people with whom we come in contact are seeing what marriage can be or won’t be, through us. We do not want our children (especially) to have a wrong view of marriage, because they hear mommy complain about it. You are a broken sinner, and your husband is a broken sinner. Ask forgiveness when you are wrong; forgive when you are wronged. But speak positive words about your husband.
Let’s love our men well!